Dear Zoe, A young man at my church recently asked my advice about whether I think it’s okay for him to date older women.He’s very mature for his age (around 24) and would really like to get married, but he finds women his age largely uninterested in marriage.Not to say that they're not happy for a while -- certainly Demi and Ashton have appeared to be, as well as the eight couples in a 2006 study by Sandra L. Proulx in which the wives were a decade or more older than their husbands (an admittedly small sample).Still, the women in the study admitted to a certain insecurity about aging, which is just never going to be a good thing in a relationship.While their 15-year age gap probably has nothing to do with Ashton's alleged infidelity -- you're either a cheater or you're not -- the odds may have been stacked against them from the beginning.That's because marriages in which the woman is much older than her husband often lead to divorce.A few weeks ago I came across a blog post titled 10 Women Christian Men Should Not Marry. It advised against marrying women who are not followers of Christ, as well as women who love to gossip or slander. As for the rest of the list, I cannot agree with much of it–mostly because his “types” are only bad stereotypes, which isn’t very helpful.However, I was surprised and then a little bit tickled when I discovered this type of women at #3: “The Older Woman.” Under this category, the author explained that marrying an older woman is not a sin, but it’s also not “God’s ideal.” He goes on to reason that it “requires an extra measure of grace to lead a woman who’s older than you.”As his scriptural justification he cited Adam and Eve: “God intentionally (with good reason! Scripture informs us that God created man first chronologically for the sake of authority!
This could result in a less joyful and more stressful life, reduced health, and finally, increased mortality." Yes, but if she could just not worry about what everyone else was thinking, she'd at least have a huge smile on her face when she kicks off.Plus, the couples felt stigmatized by others, especially the wives -- and those judgments may even impact a woman's mortality."Couples with younger husbands violate social norms and thus suffer from social sanctions," says Sven Drefahl of the Max Planck Institute for Demographic Research.My husband is and has always been one of the wisest people I know.At the age of 23 he was more mature than some 40 year olds.